On the second episode of the newly-named Give Our Take podcast, Wendy and Jaki sit down with writer and contributor Ime to discuss an op-ed she wrote entitled “Black People Don’t Want Your Second Handed Apologies. How Apologies From Young Racists Caught In the Act Mean Nothing”.
In the age of technology and social media, more and more people find themselves exposed for potentially racist behavior through social media apps.
The women discuss the implications of posting to social media and how the intention behind these posts matter, (1:30.)
Then, the group goes on to discuss a viral and hateful TikTok featured in the article, (4:30) and ponder whether racism is a learned behavior, (7:10.) Adding on, the women weigh in on apologies and what makes them meaningful, (9:00,) while shifting focus to speak about how young people are trying to get involved and shape their America (14:30.)
Circling back to apologies, GoT ends with giving their thoughts about Representative Ted Yoho and his “apology” to fellow Representative Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, (25:10.)
See Ime’s op-ed below and please don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe.
Black People Don’t Want Your Second Handed Apologies
How Apologies From Young Racists Caught In The Act Mean Nothing
Apology videos are just as common as face masks in today’s America. America is in a state of flux and the second coming of a race war is on the horizon. With this, more and more of people’s racism that was once hidden in the dark is coming to the light. One group of people finding themselves sudden stardom, white young adults.
We live in the age of technology. Instagram, Tik Tok, Facebook, Snapchat, while able to make one become an overnight sensation will also expose these same people for the racists and bigots they are. Two Georgia high school seniors from Carrollton High School learned just how unforgiving the internet can be. While not named, the white girlfriend and boyfriend duo gained notoriety after posting a Tik Tok video using racially offensive language and making vile comments about black people while apparently imitating a cooking show.
“Hey, today we’re making n—–s,” the female student said in the clip, which was shared globally.
“First we have black, yeah, pretty black … next we have don’t have a dad … and then we have, eat watermelon and fried chicken. Next one is, uh, make good choices. Oh, there’s nothing there.” The students continued: “Next we have rob people, specifically whites. Yeah, they do that. The last one is go to jail.”
Needless to say in today’s climate that video did not go over well and thus the students were exposed and then expelled. In the days following the surfaced video, the female in the video released an “apology” statement.
“I want to apologize for the abhorrent video I posted. I know in my heart how wrong it was. My bf is racist and he slowly normalized his racism on me. Still I should never have let him. I believe blacks are human too, made in the image of Christ. I have disappointed God and I want to apologize. Please don’t contact my college. It’s my future and one mistake should not ruin a life. Also please stop with the death threats. Again, I apologize. Sincerely, Steph”
This apology along with the countless others we are flooded with day in and day out are a complete and utter joke. They are laced in self serving ignorance and bigotry with no air of accountability. She puts all the blame on her “racist” boyfriend. She admits to knowing her boyfriend was racist and the fact she continued a relationship with a known racist shows she thought his behavior was acceptable. Then, she uses the phrase “I believe blacks are human too”. Word to the wise, the racism is showing honey. Also, no one uses the phrase ‘blacks’, black is the plural. She didn’t say black people clearly showing she doesn’t view blacks as being people.
She continues by saying she’s more upset she disappointed God instead of the ‘millions of black people she disrespected, noted. However, my favorite part of the “apology” is her pleading with the internet to not contact her college because her one mistake shouldn’t ruin her life. If the foolishness and privilege wasn’t showing before. Well now it’s screaming! Why shouldn’t her college know they are accepting a known racist who can’t take responsibility for their actions. When someone commits a crime do they not face consequences? Well this is your penance. This non-apology is not a get out of jail free card. Actions speak louder than words and trust and believe those words mean nothing. Countless of black people’s lives are ruined every minute of every day due to stereotypes perpetuated by privileged white folk such as she.
The only thing worth note in this string of irrelevant words is that she is receiving death threats. While I do not agree with her receiving these I can understand the hurt, anger, and frustration behind those sentiments and why they may have been said. Actions have consequences and this is one of them.
Why should her life continue as normal just because she offered a half-ass apology? PSA to all the white folk, SAVE YOUR APOLOGIES! The only thing that matters is changed behavior. Perhaps a better thought out apology with some accountability would have been received better but regardless I don’t buy any of these mountains of privileged apologies. They’re not apologizing because they are sorry but because they got caught. I’d actually prefer you don’t offer any apology and double down on your convictions. Say it with your chest! That’s really how you felt don’t backtrack now that the spotlight is on you. Save your false words for your own kin because the people you actually offended don’t forgive you.